Is An Amicable Divorce a Myth ?

Posted on 2011/08/30

Amicable Divorce, A Myth? According to Lauren Howard, a Clinical Social Worker with a private psychotherapy practice in New York City, amicable divorce is a myth. While I can align conceptually with a few points that she makes, for the most part, I disagree with her point of view. The article was posted in The Huffington Post on July 14, 2011, if you would like to read the entire article. You can find it on line at http://www.huffingtonpost.com/lauren-howard/the-myth-of-the-amicable-_b_897823.html So first, in her defense, let me say that I don’t believe being best friends is necessarily the goal of the divorced … Continue reading →

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Insurance Considerations Before and During Divorce

Posted on 2011/08/30

One could think that there is not much important to consider about insurance. But then again, there might be much to consider, if you stop and think about how your future might be impacted. Insurance is, after all, insurance. Not to be redundant, but to remind you that it is a protection, just in case, or in case of a particular situation or situations that you may experience in the future. We might purchase insurance and not need it. And alas, we say, well that was a waste! Well, correct, it might not be needed, but unfortunately, because we can’t … Continue reading →

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Taxes and Divorce

Posted on 2011/08/30

Tax Considerations in Divorce Do you suffer from tax information avoidance? Not many of us enjoy delving into the particulars of taxes, but this knowledge could be helpful to you if you are considering divorce. This article is not meant to take the place of tax advice, so please consult with a trusted CPA. We will discuss some areas that you will definitely want to be aware of as it relates to a pending divorce. If you are like most people, you have left the tax decisions up to your spouse, just like a lot of us have left the … Continue reading →

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Mothers – The Unsung Heroes of Divorce – Thank You

Posted on 2011/08/30

This subject is near and dear to our heart, especially if we have been raised by our mother in a single parent home. This is not to dis or put down the fathers and step-fathers who have been available to their children, as we all know there are many cases of those who have been there.  Stay tuned for the June article. Simply this is a message of honor and thanks to the mothers and maternal role models that have been there for their children. Do you know a woman who has experienced divorce and ended up being  the only … Continue reading →

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A Father Remembered on this Special Day

Posted on 2011/08/30

Happy Father’s Day Fred! Whether you have biologically fathered children or if you have been a surrogate father for a neighbor or friend, this thank you goes to you from the children whose lives you have changed in a positive way.   In these times of increased divorce, many children have been left with no father figure in the home and others with limited contact with their father. In many homes, it is not necessarily a separated family that requires a replacement father figure.  It may be a home in which the father travels frequently, or perhaps the father is not … Continue reading →

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Using A Certified Divorce Financial Analyst

Posted on 2011/08/30

What are the major benefits of using a certified divorce financial analyst in a divorce ? Many people, both divorcing parties and attorneys struggle with where to place a CDFA in the divorce process and how to use them effectively. So here are some pointers: 1. CDFAs are experts in the finances of divorce. By that I mean they understand not just the complex issues surrounding who normally gets what and why, but also what that is likely to mean to the divorcing party’s finances over the long run. Right now the best example I can think of is what … Continue reading →

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Bringing in the New Year

Posted on 2011/08/30

Happy New Year to You! Out With the Old and In with the New!! Are you suffering from Holiday Hangover? Many couples feel that way after the Holidays! The holiday season typically consists of dealing with family issues, in-laws and finances that can strain your marriage. Many divorces can be prevented if couples would stop and get the financial help that is strangling their marriage. Most of these things you actually have control over, it just feels at times like you don’t. What can you do now in terms of planning to start fresh? Instead of setting up New Years … Continue reading →

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Financial Issues and Divorce

Posted on 2011/08/30

Are Financial Issues in Your Marriage Leading to Divorce? We are often asked what the leading causes of divorce are, as seen from our experience. Although there is no simple answer, issues surrounding control are almost always involved. And control manifests itself most often when money is discussed. We find that many couples do not have a clear understanding of the emotional meaning of money, how it almost always means different things to different people, even if those two people are married. Understanding how money matters to your spouse can save your marriage. The issues that we counsel on are … Continue reading →

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Financial Facts Regarding Divorce

Posted on 2011/08/30

Question: How much should I plan on spending for my divorce? Answer: That is difficult to say without knowing the specifics involved in your divorce. The current rate for a Family Law Attorney is $250-$350 per hour. There are many other costs associated with divorce. For instance a counselor is approximately $100-150 per hour. The expense for an accountant is $150 – $300 per hour. A home appraisal is approximately $350. A business valuation is approximately $3,000-$4,000. The cost of traditional mediation is approximately $750-$1,050 per hour. There is also the loss of productive time that you could be working, … Continue reading →

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Anticipating Divorce?

Posted on 2011/08/30

If you have not been affected by it, you are in the minority these days. The figures are staggering of the incidence of divorce in our country, our state and our own community. Over 50% of divorcing couples choose the “do it yourself approach” or pro se (self representing). If you are in the midst of a divorce or are even contemplating it, you are probably bewildered at this point. There is a lot to consider, from emotional issues relating to yourself and children if you have them, to the physical separating of yourselves, your households and the financial separating … Continue reading →

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